Yesterday we traveled to our agency to see an attachment/behavioral therapist Rick Sudsberry. (http://www.saccc.com/) It was so wonderful to get some guidance on how to handle the “little” things that are making our life difficult…hehe No pun intended.
- When Kristofer starts spiraling out of control instead of saying “No! Now you stop that right now.” I have been instructed to replace “no” with “oops”. So I would say, “Oops, since you are not able to get control of yourself you need to come and sit by mommy.” (For a time in) I believe as parents we tend to use the word “no” way too often. I know I needed to change that, but I didn’t know what to replace it with.
- How important our smell is to our children. Our boys are learning our smell when we hold them. Since we are a comfort our smell becomes a comfort. Kelly and I have been reflecting on our childhood smells. He said he remembered his mom having him sleep on her coat of they went somewhere and he said it smelled like her so it was a comfort and he can remember being so relaxed with it. My mom said she remembers sleeping in her dad’s t-shirts and how nice it was. I can also remember what a comfort it was when something smelled like my parents. What do you remember? Was it comforting to you?
- We should play games with the boys where there is surprise involved. All of the surprise so far in their life has been bad. We want to show them that surprise can be good.
- With Igor waking after 1 hour it could be because his cortisol levels are high. They have to come down for a child to sleep and not have nightmares.
- When we feed them we need to have them on our lap so they associate comfort and nurturing with us. It will help build a relationship with people instead of the food. This goes for juice in a sippy cup too. They should sit on our lap. Since we have two to feed we need to alternate holding them.
No comments:
Post a Comment